If you’re reading this right now, you’re probably suffering over the loss of someone you love greatly. I know you’ve lost your lover and I understand that the worst pain imaginable is having the person that you love the most tell you they don’t want you anymore.

The funny part is that, as you are sitting there, with your heart feeling like it’s been ripped out of your chest, people are telling you things like…

* You will get over it.
* He/She was no good for you.
* Move on (my personal favorite).
* It’s his/her loss – you were too good for him/her.

What a bunch of crap! And all that, just to make you feel better. But, let’s face it…

…Nobody can say anything to make you feel better… Except from me. Because I can tell you how to get your ex back!

I know exactly how you can get your ex back. Believe it or not, getting your ex back is a very easy to follow linear process, but, also, a very counter-intuitive one.

We’ll talk about this in a second, but, one thing I want to point out is that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. The complete gender-specific gameplan for getting your ex back is waiting for you. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now let me give you a few tips to put you on the right track…

1. Break contact. I’m serious. Reduce or, if possible, break any contact with your ex for about 3 to 4 weeks. This should be easy, right?…Not really. This is going to be the most painful tip because you will, most likely, miss them a lot and never stop wondering about what they are doing. Stop calling them, stop sending them emails, text messages or anything of that nature. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is what I call text message terrorism. I’m sure you know what this is, but, also, I bet you don’t realize that, after a breakup, any text message, email or phone call can be too much for your ex. They already had too much telling you they don’t want you anymore. At this point it’s best to agree with the breakup and be totally cool about it.

2. Stop being needy. Always remember this: a hungry dog doesn’t get fed! Nobody wants to be around a needy person. It’s hard-wired into our brains to align with people who have higher survival value and stay away from needy people. While it is possible to make your ex take you back out of pity, it’s not what we are trying to accomplish here. You want your ex to be attracted to you again, not to feel sorry for you.

3. Get your life back. It’s time to call your old friends that you’ve probably neglected lately. Do it right now. Start having massive fun. Note that this is not some feel good advice. Being happy on your own is very important if you want to attract people into your life, and, most important, to get your ex back. So, make sure you put your life in order.

4. Start working out. When you work out, endorphins are released inside your body, so, you will feel a lot better. It will make you look better too, so you’ll get a boost in your confidence. Remember: confidence is one of the most attractive traits you can have (every dating advice I’ve read – good or bad – included this cliché – the power of confidence). But, confidence comes with success while you’ve just been dumped. It’s not going to be easy, but, don’t worry too much. I’m going to give you all the tools you need to get success, so confidence will happen automatically.

5. Contact your ex. If your ex doesn’t contact you after 4 weeks, you can contact them and have a light conversation. There are a few steps you need to do before actually contacting your ex. You’ll easily find them in the materials I will give you (check the resources at the bottom of this article). Avoid talking about your past relationship. Don’t ask your ex if they are dating someone new and don’t brag about how many people you are sleeping with or dating (that’s lame… only losers brag). Just keep it light while avoiding any arguments. Also, be cool and don’t let them think you’re desperate to see them.

6. Make your next date with your ex emotionally charged. “What?! A date?! My ex doesn’t even answer my phone calls!”…I can hear you screaming already. But, it’s alright. You will find a solution for every situation in the materials at the bottom of this article. I will teach you how to make your ex return your phone calls and how to get another date. Well, that’s actually the easy part.

Now, let me explain what I mean by “emotionally charged”. If you’re planning to do the old “dinner and movie” I have bad news for you… Why? Because,doing so, you lose on the following sociologically proven principle…

Emotionally charged = Bond

This first scenario will not only be boring, but, also, it won’t create a bonding, or, in our case, a re-bonding experience. A better scenario could be a short roller coaster ride. Also, taking your ex on a few “mini-dates” could do wonders for your relationship. This creates “time distortion”, so, your ex will feel that they’ve been with you forever after only a short period of time.

This way, you will eventually get to spend more time together and you will have a chance to get them back, if you’re prepared and you know what to do.

Be Strong

There is an old saying that “no one needs the needy” and it applies itself well to broken relationships. Begging, clinging, and desperate behavior is much more likely to repel your lost love rather than attract them. Not only is it important to prove to the world that you can perceiver in the toughest of times, but you also need to prove it to yourself. While no one is claiming that breakups are easy, keep the yelling and crying behind closed doors.

Minimize Contact

Closing the doors of communication may seem counter opposite to rebuilding a failed relationship, but it is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that things have made it to this point, and it is obvious that someone needs a break. Allowing time for reflection and thought is the best way to evaluate your relationship. This also gives your Ex time to clear their mind. It could be that some time away will remind them of how valuable your relationship was.

Be Flexible

This is not the time to start issuing mandates like “pick up your things by Monday or else”. You are wrong if you think that you can scare someone into returning. Remember that your Ex left you because they were unsatisfied with some facet of your relationship. This means it is time to become the listener and sympathizer. This does not mean you have to concede to their every demand (see Stay Strong), but you will probably have to meet beyond halfway when rebuilding the bridge of communication.

Get Out

This is no time to be alone. Call your old friends and get out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment in your life. This does not mean you have to date, or even look at the opposite sex (although who knows?). It simply means you need to occupy yourself and learn to develop a self-realization of who you are. Getting out will also be helpful for when you get back with your Ex. Your conversations will be spurred along by some of the new stories you have to tell.

Be Yourself

There was a reason that you and your Ex were initially attracted to each other, and this was because you are a unique person. Think of what made these first weeks or months so special, and try to identify what has changed. Sometimes relationships can become monotonous and you can forget what it was that made both of you compatible. Learn to accentuate your qualities and strive to be the real person you are. This renewed self-perception of yourself will rub off on everyone around you.

It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic strategies above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue to adapt to the situation. If you truly love your Ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself. For more resources, please visit Get Back My Ex.

Sometimes you need help to save your relationship. Proven resources and strategies are available at http://getbackmyex.com

So the love of your life dumped you and the world, as you know it, has ended. After the initial shock of having your chest split open, your heart torn out, sliced, diced, sautéed and served to you for breakfast, what do you do? Well, if you are like 99.9% of the world, then your going to immediately want to know how to win back your ex.

The first step to winning back your ex is to NOT make the situation worse than it already is. This means you have to control your emotions and NOT PANIC. What happens when you panic and can’t control your emotions

Your more likely to…

- Say things that aren’t true

- Say things that will push your ex’s buttons

- Try to make your ex feel jealous

- Use unkind words to make your ex feel bad

- Behave like a stalker

- Taunt your ex and rehash old arguments

- Seek revenge

As you can see, nothing in the list above is very attractive. These aren’t good strategies for winning back your ex – but because you’re panicking, they seem like perfectly good ways to win back your ex. Instead, you need to allow yourself to cool down a bit. Put more time into your work, pick up a hobby, and more importantly avoid depression. Going into a depression is the WORST thing you can do. If you go into a depression your going to ruin all your chances of winning back your ex.

Relationships are fragile bonds that must be continually nurtured and respected in order to flourish. Each person involved in a relationship is responsible for providing value to the other half for a natural balance to be created. It is when this balance is broken that problems start to occur. Eventually an unbalanced relationship will dissolve, and this usually leaves one side still hoping things can be resolved. Being the only one working for a resolution can be a tough and lonely proposition, but there are ways to salvage even the bleakest situations.

Be Strong

There is an old saying that “no one needs the needy” and it applies itself well to broken relationships. Begging, clinging, and desperate behavior is much more likely to repel your lost love rather than attract them. Not only is it important to prove to the world that you can perceiver in the toughest of times, but you also need to prove it to yourself. While no one is claiming that breakups are easy, keep the yelling and crying behind closed doors.

Minimize Contact

Closing the doors of communication may seem counter opposite to rebuilding a failed relationship, but it is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that things have made it to this point, and it is obvious that someone needs a break. Allowing time for reflection and thought is the best way to evaluate your relationship. This also gives your Ex time to clear their mind. It could be that some time away will remind them of how valuable your relationship was.

Be Flexible

This is not the time to start issuing mandates like “pick up your things by Monday or else”. You are wrong if you think that you can scare someone into returning. Remember that your Ex left you because they were unsatisfied with some facet of your relationship. This means it is time to become the listener and sympathizer. This does not mean you have to concede to their every demand (see Stay Strong), but you will probably have to meet beyond halfway when rebuilding the bridge of communication.

Get Out

This is no time to be alone. Call your old friends and get out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment in your life. This does not mean you have to date, or even look at the opposite sex (although who knows?). It simply means you need to occupy yourself and learn to develop a self-realization of who you are. Getting out will also be helpful for when you get back with your Ex. Your conversations will be spurred along by some of the new stories you have to tell.

Be Yourself

There was a reason that you and your Ex were initially attracted to each other, and this was because you are a unique person. Think of what made these first weeks or months so special, and try to identify what has changed. Sometimes relationships can become monotonous and you can forget what it was that made both of you compatible. Learn to accentuate your qualities and strive to be the real person you are. This renewed self-perception of yourself will rub off on everyone around you.

It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic strategies above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue to adapt to the situation. If you truly love your Ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself. For more resources, please visit Get Back My Ex.

But what if you’re not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you’re willing to do a little work to make it happen. That’s a good and smart choice.

Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed…if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We’ll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I’ve found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow gameplan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now on to some tips…

The first step in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine why exactly the breakup occurred. Even though you can’t go back into the past to change the reason the breakup occurred, you can learn from the mistake and try to grow from it.

The breakup may have occurred because of one specific event, or even from a behavior that your ex didn’t want to deal with anymore. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you need to find out the specifics so you can learn how to deal with the situation later on. When you follow the plan outlined at the sites below, you will get your ex back. But this time you want to keep the relationship together, right? So that’s step one.

The next step is to make sure you don’t make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

This is one of the main points you’ll learn when you visit the sites I tell you about below. In fact, you’ll learn exactly what to say and how to say it. This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex‘s head that they made a mistake. It’s very powerful!

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won’t be able to stop it no matter what you try.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you’ve followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.

If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.

Getting back with your ex isn’t rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that’s the opposite of what you want to do, right.

Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you’ll be all set. Good luck!

Throughout this story I’ve been referring to a step-by-step gameplan anyone can follow to win back their ex. Here’s where you can find it: watch this quick video (it’s under 10 minutes) that explains the entire process. I bet this will turn out to be the smartest thing you do all day.

Next, this get ex back guide will help you understand what went wrong in your relationship to begin with. Good luck with everything. I hope this helps!

Almost every adult has experienced a break up sometime during their life, and most of the time they just learn how to move on.

But what if you’re not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you’re willing to do a little work to make it happen. That’s a good and smart choice.

Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed…if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We’ll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I’ve found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow gameplan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now on to some tips…

The first step in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine why exactly the breakup occurred. Even though you can’t go back into the past to change the reason the breakup occurred, you can learn from the mistake and try to grow from it.

The breakup may have occurred because of one specific event, or even from a behavior that your ex didn’t want to deal with anymore. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you need to find out the specifics so you can learn how to deal with the situation later on. When you follow the plan outlined at the sites below, you will get your ex back. But this time you want to keep the relationship together, right? So that’s step one.

The next step is to make sure you don’t make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

This is one of the main points you’ll learn when you visit the sites I tell you about below. In fact, you’ll learn exactly what to say and how to say it. This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex’s head that they made a mistake. It’s very powerful!

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won’t be able to stop it no matter what you try.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you’ve followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.

If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.

Getting back with your ex isn’t rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that’s the opposite of what you want to do, right.

Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you’ll be all set. Good luck!

What you need to realize is that you’re at a psychological disadvantage right now. It’s not your fault, but there are things you can do to turn things in your favor. Most of them involve ignoring your emotions and listening to your logical side. The reason you’re at a disadvantage is because you have been on the receiving end of the breakup. In other words, you have been rejected and that gives your ex the psychological upper hand.  

If you’re currently pestering your ex, making the situation worse, stop everything this instant. Not one more phone call, text message, love letter, or e-mail. Whether you realize it or not, you’re digging yourself a deeper hole – one from which you may never escape.  

Next, you’re going to have to get out of that funk you’re in. While it may seem that no one has ever suffered like this, just about everyone has been there at one point in time. Locking yourself in your bedroom, sleeping 16 hours a day, and shutting yourself off from the rest of society is not healthy – and it’s definitely not going to help you get your ex back. Find a distraction. Surround yourself with friends, take up a new hobby, or take a vacation – the main thing is to get your mind off the relationship.  

If you’ve made it this far, you’ll likely notice that your self-esteem (and confidence) has come back. You no longer feel as though everything was your fault and you can stop blaming yourself for the breakup. Though you may still be wondering how to get your ex back, it’s important now to carry on with your life, do things for yourself, and let your ex know that you’re perfectly fine and you’re getting on with things. It’s okay to want to win them back, but it’s much too early to let that secret out of the bag.  

Slowly, you’re going to turn the psychological tables in your favor. You’re going to create desire by using the principle of scarcity. If you are no longer available to your ex, you’ll notice that they may become more friendly, “accidentally” run into you, or start asking about you when talking to your friends. We all want what we can’t have and, oftentimes, attraction is created when you’re unavailable. It’s basic human psychology.  

Here’s The Real Secret…

The last step is tricky. You’re going to have to walk a fine line between scarcity and availability. You don’t want to throw yourself at your ex, but you also don’t want to become so aloof that they simply give up. Maintain your poise, exude confidence, but don’t ignore them. They’ll make sure to let you know that they are still attracted to you. If everything goes according to plan, you won’t need to make the first move. The important thing is to try and create opportunities to be together socially without letting on that you’re trying to rekindle the relationship. This is where common friends are invaluable. Don’t underestimate this step: you can be confident, cool, and aloof, but if the right opportunity doesn’t present itself, nothing is going to happen.  

Most relationships can be saved after a breakup, but few ever are. That’s because critical mistakes are made in the days following the split. In fact, you’re probably making those very mistakes right now without realizing it. If this sounds familiar, This Page could be a real eye-opener for you.

Nothing in life is guaranteed – especially when it comes to relationships and knowing how to get your ex back. If you’re reading this, my heart goes out to you because I have experienced, first-hand, the pain you’re going through. Breaking up with someone is bad enough, but if you’ve been suddenly dumped for no apparent reason, the emotional anguish can be intense.  

What you need to realize is that you’re at a psychological disadvantage right now. It’s not your fault, but there are things you can do to turn things in your favor. Most of them involve ignoring your emotions and listening to your logical side. The reason you’re at a disadvantage is because you have been on the receiving end of the breakup. In other words, you have been rejected and that gives your ex the psychological upper hand.  

If you’re currently pestering your ex, making the situation worse, stop everything this instant. Not one more phone call, text message, love letter, or e-mail. Whether you realize it or not, you’re digging yourself a deeper hole – one from which you may never escape.  

Next, you’re going to have to get out of that funk you’re in. While it may seem that no one has ever suffered like this, just about everyone has been there at one point in time. Locking yourself in your bedroom, sleeping 16 hours a day, and shutting yourself off from the rest of society is not healthy – and it’s definitely not going to help you get your ex back. Find a distraction. Surround yourself with friends, take up a new hobby, or take a vacation – the main thing is to get your mind off the relationship.  

If you’ve made it this far, you’ll likely notice that your self-esteem (and confidence) has come back. You no longer feel as though everything was your fault and you can stop blaming yourself for the breakup. Though you may still be wondering how to get your ex back, it’s important now to carry on with your life, do things for yourself, and let your ex know that you’re perfectly fine and you’re getting on with things. It’s okay to want to win them back, but it’s much too early to let that secret out of the bag.  

Slowly, you’re going to turn the psychological tables in your favor. You’re going to create desire by using the principle of scarcity. If you are no longer available to your ex, you’ll notice that they may become more friendly, “accidentally” run into you, or start asking about you when talking to your friends. We all want what we can’t have and, oftentimes, attraction is created when you’re unavailable. It’s basic human psychology.  

Here’s The Real Secret…

The last step is tricky. You’re going to have to walk a fine line between scarcity and availability. You don’t want to throw yourself at your ex, but you also don’t want to become so aloof that they simply give up. Maintain your poise, exude confidence, but don’t ignore them. They’ll make sure to let you know that they are still attracted to you. If everything goes according to plan, you won’t need to make the first move. The important thing is to try and create opportunities to be together socially without letting on that you’re trying to rekindle the relationship. This is where common friends are invaluable. Don’t underestimate this step: you can be confident, cool, and aloof, but if the right opportunity doesn’t present itself, nothing is going to happen.  

Be Strong

There is an old saying that “no one needs the needy” and it applies itself well to broken relationships. Begging, clinging, and desperate behavior is much more likely to repel your lost love rather than attract them. Not only is it important to prove to the world that you can perceiver in the toughest of times, but you also need to prove it to yourself. While no one is claiming that breakups are easy, keep the yelling and crying behind closed doors.

Minimize Contact

Closing the doors of communication may seem counter opposite to rebuilding a failed relationship, but it is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that things have made it to this point, and it is obvious that someone needs a break. Allowing time for reflection and thought is the best way to evaluate your relationship. This also gives your Ex time to clear their mind. It could be that some time away will remind them of how valuable your relationship was.

Be Flexible

This is not the time to start issuing mandates like “pick up your things by Monday or else”. You are wrong if you think that you can scare someone into returning. Remember that your Ex left you because they were unsatisfied with some facet of your relationship. This means it is time to become the listener and sympathizer. This does not mean you have to concede to their every demand (see Stay Strong), but you will probably have to meet beyond halfway when rebuilding the bridge of communication.

Get Out

This is no time to be alone. Call your old friends and get out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment in your life. This does not mean you have to date, or even look at the opposite sex (although who knows?). It simply means you need to occupy yourself and learn to develop a self-realization of who you are. Getting out will also be helpful for when you get back with your Ex. Your conversations will be spurred along by some of the new stories you have to tell.

Be Yourself

There was a reason that you and your Ex were initially attracted to each other, and this was because you are a unique person. Think of what made these first weeks or months so special, and try to identify what has changed. Sometimes relationships can become monotonous and you can forget what it was that made both of you compatible. Learn to accentuate your qualities and strive to be the real person you are. This renewed self-perception of yourself will rub off on everyone around you.

It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic strategies above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue to adapt to the situation. If you truly love your Ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself. For more resources, please visit Get Back My Ex.

Sometimes you need help to save your relationship. Proven resources and strategies are available at http://getbackmyex.com

But what if you’re not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you’re willing to do a little work to make it happen. That’s a good and smart choice.

Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed…if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We’ll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I’ve found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow gameplan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now on to some tips…

The first step in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine why exactly the breakup occurred. Even though you can’t go back into the past to change the reason the breakup occurred, you can learn from the mistake and try to grow from it.

The breakup may have occurred because of one specific event, or even from a behavior that your ex didn’t want to deal with anymore. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you need to find out the specifics so you can learn how to deal with the situation later on. When you follow the plan outlined at the sites below, you will get your ex back. But this time you want to keep the relationship together, right? So that’s step one.

The next step is to make sure you don’t make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

This is one of the main points you’ll learn when you visit the sites I tell you about below. In fact, you’ll learn exactly what to say and how to say it. This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex‘s head that they made a mistake. It’s very powerful!

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won’t be able to stop it no matter what you try.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you’ve followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.

If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.

Getting back with your ex isn’t rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that’s the opposite of what you want to do, right.

Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you’ll be all set. Good luck!

Throughout this story I’ve been referring to a step-by-step gameplan anyone can follow to win back their ex. Here’s where you can find it: watch this quick video (it’s under 10 minutes) that explains the entire process. I bet this will turn out to be the smartest thing you do all day.

Next, this get ex back guide will help you understand what went wrong in your relationship to begin with. Good luck with everything. I hope this helps!